Challenges in summer

It's summer. A very challenging season for me because night is short and I have to perform three prayers (sholat), one around 10:00 pm till 11:40pm [maghrib], one between 11:40pm till 03:30 [i'sya'], and final [fajr] between 03:30 till 05:30. The problem is, I normally go to bed around 10 pm. This is my standard sleeping time wherever I am...so after maghrib I sleep and I have to wake up again at least one time, normally between 03:00 to 04:00 am to perform Isya'and Fajr. Alhamdulillah, normally I manage not to skip these prayers although I missed few times in which I was really tired and did not awake at all. Again alhamdulillah...if it is not from the strenght given from Him, I will never be able to do my prayers. (This is why when we heard adzan (calling for prayers) when the bilal said "haiya a'la sholah" which means lets perform prayer, we have to answer it by "lahau lawala quwwata illa billah" which means there is no change or power except through Allah).

This reminds me a lot to always be thankful to Allah whenever I finish performing my sholat, and never ever look down to people who do not perform their prayers. Of course, our effort is to teach and train a muslim (especially those who are close with us) to perform prayers at the very beginning of age, but our hearts belong to Allah. HE can twist our hearts, even if we are very well trained, we could fall into the false direction. Therefore, we must not be proud of ourself but keep asking guidance from Allah and be thankful.

May Allah guide us and protect us...forgive us Our Lord...

PhD oh PhD

Salam,

This blog now is my diary. Of course I will not write anything privacy here. Obviously now I need someone to talk to. But since nobody can listen to me now...here I am..blogging.

Just met my supervisor. I received many comments from him and they were constructive comments.

He told me how to think and organize my idea and put them into a comprehensive way of writing. It was so nice that he tried his best to simplify his talk so that I got to the point. Emm...what's the point of talking if I didn't understand right?

Fuh....actually...I have to start writing now. :) Anyway, tips from my supervisor,

1. Write backward....for my case I have listed 5 objectives, therefore, construct my text based on the objectives.

2. Emm??

Hehe..till then!

Pesanan kepada anak-anak

Salam,
Juga peringatan kepada saya seorang anak;

First, SOLAT 5 waktu sehari semalam.
Seterusnya...

1. Sentiasa doakan ibu dan ayah, "Ya Allah, ampunilah kedua ibu dan ayahku dan kasihanilah kedua ibu bapaku sebagaimana mereka mengasihaniku sejak kecil".
2. Janganlah menyakiti hati ibu dan ayah. Gembirakan mereka.
3. Selalu menziarahi ibu dan ayah.
4. Rajin-rajin tolong ibu dan ayah.

InshaAllah akan disambung bila ada idea untuk improve.

Pesanan kepada si ayah dan si ibu

Salam,
Also a reminder to myself and all beloved parents around the world,

First and foremost....dirikan solat.
Seterusnya....

1. Berikan didikan agama dan duniawi yang terbaik yang kita mampu kepada anak-anak.
2. Berikan nafkah yang halal (makanan yang halal, sumber yang halal).
3. Sekiranya buat pembelian (apa sahaja contohnya minyak kereta, sabun mandi, berus gigi) menggunakan kad kredit, buat pembayaran cepat-cepat supaya tidak dikenakan interest. Ingat, interest itu riba', riba' itu haram.
4. Jagalah aurat dengan sempurna.
5. Tundukkan pandangan, jangan memandang sesuatu yang bukan hak.
6. Bersabar dengan kerenah anak-anak. Bak kata pepatah, merekalah racun, merekalah penawar.
7. Jagalah tutur kata. Mereka belajar daripada kita.
8. Cuba usahakan supaya anak-anak kita berada dalam lingkungan orang-orang yang soleh, yang positif supaya anak-anak kita sentiasa belajar perkara yang baik.
9. Terangkan di dunia ini ada banyak anasir jahat, tapi ajar anak-anak kita berdoa supaya terpelihara daripada sesuatu yang jahat itu.
10. Kenali potensi anak-anak dan dorong mereka supaya berjaya.
11. Bercakap dengan nasihat yang jelas. Instead "jangan malas", sebut "jadi rajin". Instead, "jangan lari", sebut "jalan perlahan".
12. Doakan anak-anak kita...

Banyak lagi, but to me..these are fundamental....Allah knows best.

How to feel good

Salam,
Things that I learn for myself to always feel good:

1. Make myself busy with something good. Pray to Allah that every time will be spent with something useful.
2. Do not blame or give negative comment to a system, a person, or anything unless my comment is really needed for improvement. If what I say will not change anything to be better, I must shut up my mouth.
3. Think think think before I say anything. Do not talk rubbish.
4. Be thankful
5. Try to look everything on it's positive side.
6. Everything that is around me is my teacher. Learn learn learn... therefore, do not look down to anything or anyone, as they can teach me something about life..be good or bad..

The time will come

Salam,

I just know that one of the greatest muslimah in our country has passed away yesterday, Allahyarhamah Dr Lo'Lo'. May Allah bless her and make her one of the dwellers of Jannah..

Fuuhhh...at least her contribution was clear to us. And I believe that she has left us many good examples.

Emmm...but how about the us? Maybe I don't have to think too big or too far. What is more important, try do every small things in a great way, and that will be more meaningful than creating thousands of dreams...

Seek first to understand

In life, I have never been tought or trained to understand people. As I grew up, I kept asking why didn't people understand me?? On the other hand, as I became older, most people expected me to understand them. Conflicts happened between me and my family, my friends, my husband and my little children because sometimes we forgot to understand each other.

Lesson to be learnt, seek first to understand rather than being understood (as what we always find in motivational books). The thing is, it would never be easy. Most of the time, we would have to give up our interest in order to agree with other's opinions. It would be even more difficult if we think that our opinion is the most correct one and can affect us in a negative way if we do not follow our opinion. Hem...

Then come another phrase, "put yourself in one's shoes". Yes, I do not have to argue with this topic anymore. Somemore, the concept of accepting other's interest is in accordance with Islamic teachings, as long as the interest does not give any negative effects to anyone.

So, I must train myself harder to understand people. AND, train my children as well. Understanding people is a skill that needs to be cultivated in our family, and community! May Allah reward us! Amin.

Hari ini aku gembira..

Alhamdulillah....konflik telah selesai di tangani dengan izin Tuhan. Sekarang pintu USAHA terbuka luas. Semoga Tuhan memudahkan langkah kita ke jalan-jalan kebaikan.

Tensi tensi

Dah dua minggu ni aku terlalu susah nak bangun tido. Bila dah bangun tido masih terasa mengantuk, susah nak buka mata. Badan terasa lemah tak berdaya. Seolah semua semangat ku sudah terbang. Hish...sungguh tak seronok. Tengoklah gambar tu....cubaan membeli bunga rose kali ni tak berjaya menceriakan aku. Cuba tersenyum di sebalik bunga pun mata tak mampu terbuka sepenuhnya. Tuhan, berikan aku kekuatan...

Thank you Allah!

Maka yang mana satu nikmat-nikmat Tuhan kamu, yang kamu hendak dustakan (wahai umat manusia dan jin)? [Ar-Rahman: 13]

Bukankah manusia dan jin diutuskan di atas muka bumi Allah ini semata-mata untuk beribadah kepada-Nya? Mudah-mudahan Allah mempermudahkan segala urusan kita dan menjadikan setiap deria kita di setiap saat dalam keadaan ibadah kepada Allah. Memanglah manusia itu lemah, aku lemah.. Tetapi doa itukan senjata umat mukmin..Tiada daya dan upaya kita melainkan dengan pertolongan Allah. Doa biar jelas-jelas...kerana selain berharap hanya kepada Allah, doa itu juga boleh memberi imej yang jelas dalam otak kita untuk berusaha menjadikan gambaran minda kepada realiti, inshaAllah.

Sebetulnya aku cuba memberikan kekuatan kepada diriku sendiri. Tatkala ini aku masih berusaha menyiapkan proposal ku. Hari ini mesti disiapkan, setelah berbulan-bulan perbincangan demi perbincangan diadakan bersama supervisor ku, deraf demi deraf aku sediakan, masa hampir tamat. Semoga Tuhan memberikan ku kekuatan, idea yang bernas dan fokus untuk aku menulis yang terbaik untuk proposalku yang terakhir.

Bukan untuk aku sahaja, bahkan untuk sekelian umat Islam yang lain tak kira di mana kita berada. Tiada yang kecil, pesawah yang bergelumang dengan lumpur juga kerjaya besar, nelayan yang mengharung gelombang juga kerjaya besar, anak kecil yang ke sekolah juga melakukan perkara besar, pembantu rumah juga kerjaya besar. Kerana pada akhirnya yang dipandang Allah adalah usaha dan takwa kita kepada-Nya. Hidayah dan rahmat Allah untuk kita semua!

Cheer up, senyum dan bersyukurlah Huda! :)