rewards

It is a nature of human to long for rewards. We will be very happy when we get good marks in exams, our paper get published in renowned journal, and when people say good thing about us. Rewards will improve our confidence level and motivate us to work better and harder.

Therefore, it is so worth to remind ourselves to give rewards to our children, spouse, and friends whenever they deserve it. Don't be too stingy, please say something good to them. Must be something good... People don't know what is in your heart. If you love someone, say it, show them your love.

Agree to disagree

Conflict has been part of human's life since the creation of the first man, Adam, Hawa, and their children. When a conflict occurs between two persons, mostly cause by different interest, people tend to judge which opinion is right or wrong. Unfortunately, no one is right or wrong but these two unlucky people will continue to be in conflict. Most of the time, so much energy will be wasted to negative feeling. So what should we do when we're in conflict??

1- Isolate yourself from the people whom you're having conflict, calm down and put aside your ego
2- Put yourself in their position and think the way they might be thinking
3- Relate their opinion with your opinion
4- Try to find the balance between the two opinions
5- Don't be mad, believe that no one is wrong and no one is right, it is just the difference!
6- Decide something that both parties will be in win-win situation

Lastly, conflict management needs practice. Try your best to always be calm and positive. Remember, keep telling yourself that others opinion also important. Never forget to ask help from Allah, as HE knows best what are the best for you.

only 12%

Dear readers,
How do I use to the maximum all the potentials in me? I have lots of energy and ideas but always my time is wasted into something else which is less important. I have to force myself to do the besttttt!!!!!! I am the best!!

Berita

Angin,

khabarkan padanya aku ingin menjadi yang terbaik untuknya

aku ingin menjadi solehah

aku ingin menjadi terpuji

wanita berfikiran positif dan berakal cemerlang

berhati luhur

dengan amal yang sentiasa ikhlas mengharapkan redha Ilahi

Namun

laluan ke jannah itu hamparannya tikar berduri

syaitan dan nafsu tidak akan pernah jemu

maafkan aku seringkali impian ku tertewas

kupohon kekuatan daripada Ilahi

Kuharap

engkau dan mereka mengerti

andai aku pergi

tahulah engkau aku ini pernah meniti

hamparan yang berduri

Nukilan,

wanita padi, makin tunduk kerna berisi..

tak sedap hati

Selalu perkara yang terjadi adalah tak seperti yang diinginkan. Apa yang paling dikesalkan adalah harapan daripada diri sendiri...selalu diri sendiri tak menjadi seperti yang diri sendiri inginkan.

when mama's already home

I did not have much problem to win back my youngest daughter, Hannah after six months I was away from her. Most probably because she stayed with my mother, my two sisters and my two nieces age 21 and 17. So Hannah used to have many women around her. Same went to Adam and Fatima, obviously because they always recognize me as their mother. I was so thankful and never can describe the feeling when finally we met again.

Adam and Fatima always quarrel with each other about who wants to sleep next to me. In fact, this problem happen since I had Hannah almost one year ago and now it happen again almost every night. It is a problem to decide who will sleep next to me because Hannah also wants to be on my one side (of course Hannah has win the competition). I will always try my best to console Adam since he's the eldest brother and can understand my explanation better than Fatima. The easiest way to discuss with Adam is by telling him that I will change my position and sleep next to him when the two girls are already slept. Unfortunately I did not do as promised a couple of times and had disappointed Adam. Just last night when I broke the promise again, when he saw me this morning, the first question he asked was why didn't I sleep next to him. Emm...after today I know I must not break the promise again.

Why do I take this thing so seriously since I know to some of you might think that this problem is very simple. The answer is, whenever I have argument with my babies, I will never let them sleep with bad feeling. I believe that it is not healthy for kids to sleep with negative emotions. I will try my best to finish any argument and tell them that they are good children and I love them so much.

Empty head

Today is Thurday. Next Thursday I will be boarding an airplane, to go back to Malaysia. Home sweet home. Actually life is more challenging in every aspects back in my country. But that is my real life. I thank God for my life. I pray that I will always do the best in all situation. I hope I can always control my emotion (that can turn out to be really crazy, God please forbid).

Emm...so lately I didn't do much reading like I used to do weeks before. It was not because I already had enough knowledge, but mainly because I finished writing my proposal last week. So I told myself (indirectly) that I could have some rest. But when I read the proposal again yesterday, I realized how ' imperfect' it was. In other way, there were to many things to be improved. Huh....it was real hard to write when you didn't know about what you were writing. How do I learn to write!!!

I must learn writing. Since my English is not perfect, with a very limited vocabularies, and with least skills...my writing looks dry and the paragraphs do not seem to integrate nicely. Arrrggghhh......!!! Now rather than checking my facebook every now and then, I better do an english exercise from the internet. pllleeeaaaasssee.....

(Soo, no rest for me? Time is gold..do something fun but make sure I am learning from it)

End of story...see...no coherence of ideas right?? The topic jump from one to another!!! Huwwwaaarrgghhh!