Harapan

Harapan boleh terbahagi kepada beberapa contohnya;

1. Harapan kepada diri sendiri
2. Harapan kepada orang lain
3. Harapan kepada Allah.

Izinkan saya menghurai ketiga-tiga harapan di atas berdasarkan pemahaman saya sendiri. Dimulai dengan harapan kepada Allah. Harapan ini adalah sesuatu yang tidak boleh putus daripada seorang hamba kepada Tuhannya. Harapan kepada rahmat Allah membuatkan kita sentiasa tenang dalam menghadapi situasi apapun. Namun, praktis tidaklah semudah pemahaman. Seringkali manusia itu lupa mengharap yang terbaik, bahkan menyesali apa sahaja nasib yang menimpa diri. Tapi manusia itukan bersifat lupa dan pengetahuan mereka sangat terbatas. Oleh itu, disarankan agar kita sentiasalah bersilaturrahim dengan orang-orang yang soleh dan berilmu supaya dapat sentiasa kita pelajari sesuatu yang baik daripada mereka.

Huraian kedua berkisar tentang harapan kepada orang lain. Kita selalu berpendapat sesuatu perkara itu wajib dilakukan oleh orang lain, dan sering pula orang itu lupa. Nah, apakah konsekuensinya? Adakah kita layak berasa marah, kecewa, sedih atau apa? Ya, sebagai manusia normal kita pasti berasa sesuatu. Perasaan itu maksudnya apa? Sayang, benci, prihatin? Sungguh kompleks.... Kerana, kita hanya tahu tentang persepsi kita tetapi tidak pernah tahu secara tepat akan persepsi orang lain. Kita selalunya cenderung merasakan persepsi kita betul, namun mereka juga pasti merasakan persepsi mereka betul. Jadi bagaimana? Haruskah kita terus-terusan membuat agakkan (assumption)? Jadi dalam kes ini, sekiranya harapan kita terhadap orang lain salah sama sekali, dan ternyata tidak mendatangkan apa-apa keuntungan, baik kita biarkan sahaja. Cuba letakkan diri kita ditempat mereka, atau letakkan diri kita di tengah-tengah. Oh, sungguh mudah menyatakan tetapi secara praktisnya pasti tidak semudah itu.

Yang terakhir ialah harapan kepada diri sendiri. Perkara yang paling utama ialah cuba belajar sebaik mungkin menangani perbezaan yang terdapat di sekeliling kita. Memaksa orang lain lain untuk berubah adalah hampir mustahil, namun memujuk diri sendiri untuk menjadi lebih rasional adalah yang terbaik. Aduh, cakap memang senang kan. Tapi inilah ciri-ciri orang yang berjaya. Tahu bila untuk berkata sesuatu, tahu bila perlunya untuk diam, dan tahu bila masanya untuk bertindak. Jadilah proaktif. Tenang.

Haraplah kepada diri sendiri untuk menjadi ibu, anak, isteri, pelajar, pekerja dan ahli masyarakat yang terbaik. Dan haraplah kepada Allah untuk menunjukkan jalan yang lurus supaya kita menjadi manusia yang terbaik.

Journey with best friend

He is my best friend.
I quarrel with him a lot.
But we share the same mission and vision.
Sometimes we are in the same boat, but we paddle to different direction,
though we know we want to go to the same place.
I am always the one who make things more complicated.
On contrary, he is always the one who make things easy and sometimes too easy.
But always we try to balance.
Sure, it is not easy and we quarrel again and again.
At the end of the day, we say "I love you" and we go to sleep.
In our sleep we never forget to dream.
Sometimes we have fantastic dreams, that give us hopes.
Sometimes we have nightmares, that send us reminders.
No matter what, we enjoy our life together.
We bravely face all the obstacles together.
and we pray the HE will show us the right way, and shower us with HIS blessing and mercy.

Your best friend.

Para Pencari Tuhan (Indonesian Sinetron)

Hey dude! :)

I'm a big fan of this Indonesian Sinetron, Para Pencari Tuhan. The story was about Bang Jack, a surau care taker and three young men, Juki, Chelsea and Barong. The three young men were prisoners but decided to be a better person. They met Bang Jack and Bang Jack agreed to share his knowledge on religious matters and other skills like gardening. This drama tells how they deals with their own life and the people in the village. The uniqueness of this drama is how religious matters are discussed in simple manner and sometimes funny, but still able to give huge impact to the audience. In other words, "dakwah yang hikmah dan berkesan".

The story has already 4 series. If you're interested, try to follow from Part 1 by searching for "Para Pencari Tuhan 1" and also "Para Pencari Tuhan 2" for the next series in youtube. However, I myself couldn't find for "Para Pencari Tuhan 1, episode 1, part 1". I only found 'Para Pencari Tuhan 1, episode 3, part 3". The language is understandable for Malays though they speak Indonesian languange.

InshaAllah, Pak Deddy Mizwar (Bang Jack) and also as producer of this drama will not disappoint you!.



Till then, chow!

How to be happy?

Assalamualaikum warahmatullah...

Dear readers (I wonder if there's any reader..hehe),

Anyways..I'm doing good..I hope everybody is good too.

My simple question for today.. What can make you happy?

Write down the "things that make me happy" on a piece of paper. Read them carefully...and find time to do all the things! If you don't know what can make you happy, maybe you can try to see my lists, perhaps you can copy and try whether those things will make you happy or not! :)

Things that can make Norulhuda (that's me) happy.

1. A clean house ---> lets do cleaning!
2. Listen to good music ---> for example see below;

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NgDX2xpGwAU&feature=player_embedded

3. Eat when I'm hungry
4. Sleep when I'm sleepy
5. Wake up early in the morning
6. Hugs my babies
7. I love nature! I love observing the trees.. especially when I'm at Wageningen, the trees are the best things to observe...how do they change over the autumn, winter, and spring!
8. See kids play (any kids! I just love to watch them playing...their laugh, tears...really make me feel alive!
9. The feeling during and after shower (really fresh!)
10. During I brush my teeth
11. Whenever I learn something new

....and the list goes on.....

As a conclusion...you don't have to go far to find happiness. Happiness is inside you. Appreciate yourself..do the best at every moment...be more sensitive towards yourself. And thank your God....your Creator who has made you.

Jazakallahu khairan kathira,
Norulhuda, Wageningen, Marijkeweg, Zodiac, 10.09 am, 14 April 2011, 10 Jamadil A- Awwal 1432.

Wageningen, I'm back.

I don't belong here. But I'm so thankful to be here.

The moment I was out from the airplane on 15 February 2011 I smelled Netherlands. The smell was totally different from Malaysia. The cold air blended with the smell of coffee, the ground, the leaves, the building, they've got their own smell that quickly reminded me of my last 2 years here in the Netherlands. I felt excited and sad. I missed my family already especially because last time we (my husband (Nan), Adam, Fatima, and my mother) were here together.

Two years are short. I can close my eyes and cycle as I remember every turns. Things have not changed much. Only the post kantoor has closed, some other shops have moved to other places, some close, and the nearest shop from our home at Riemsdijkstraat is no longer there. We used to shop there almost every time. As far as I remember, the shop was actually the place Adam learned to buy biscuits, fruits, ice cream, chocolate and even books. :) Once, he took an apple and ate it straight away. And in front of the shop Adam was licked by a very huge dog. Uhh...memories....but I'm quite thankful the shop is not there anymore or else I will feel more sad remembering us together. It has been a week now and I still see Nan and Adam wherever I go because I was with them almost everywhere.

Fortunately my room is at Haarweg, a place we've never been together before. :) The room has two florescent lights that makes it very bright. Normally dutch will use a very dim orange light for their house but since the building used to be an office building so we do not have the orange light. So lucky. It is a huge room. I like it.

21 February 2011, 8.28 pm Dutch time, 3.28 am Malaysian time.

leaving for ....

Assalamualaikum warahmatullah,

I'll be leaving for The Netherlands next Monday! Feeling nervous to start my PhD, to travel alone again, but at the same time excited! AND...to be away from my beloved ones..hubby, adam, fatima, hannah, and sisters, a brothers, and....mak. :). Gonna miss them so much especially my baby, hannah (oh Allah, she's so adorable). But inshaAllah 6 months will not be that long. I will just have to focus on my study! Things will be just fine...ameen..

Okay, going to write more together with more pictures once I'm in the Netherlands. Tata!

-Huda, 8 February, 4.33 p.m

Congratulation, you're pregnant! A little khalifah is on his way!

Assalamualaikum warahmatullah and peace be upon you... :)

What was your feeling last time when you know that you were pregnant? Hee...feeling down? Nervous? Worry? Happy? or....?? Mine was like a bowl of garden salad mixed with more than one salad dressing! Haha...what an analogy! It is difficult to describe especially if it is unplanned. :) But for a muslim, we MUST be grateful to Allah....

Have you ever said congratulation to your friend when you know that she's pregnant? If you haven't, then hurry up. You must say so. It is because, being pregnant is never easy. Pregnant ladies really need support from people around them. Please avoid these kind of sentences.."eeiii...poor your kids, they are still small and they need your attention, who's going to look after your kids then?"...or.. "eh, don't you feel tired? why didn't you wait at least for another year to get pregnant?"...or...."hey, you are a student, how are going to cope with your life after this?" .. These kind of sentences will kill that person. She knows better than you of what is going to happen next..and she'll be the one who will face all the difficulties that you mentioned. Please...please say only good words to them. Good words will motivate them, and in turn, they will have a higher tendency to become a better mom cum wife/worker/student.

And to all pregnant ladies, always be positive! No matter what you feel (some of you are terribly sick!), you must try to be happy and motivated. Don't put too much hope that others will understand you or help you..but you must believe that Allah is always there for you! So never forget to pray.

That's all, thank you. Bye!